Meeting People for Reasons and Seasons

Reasons and Seasons


Ever wonder why some of the friendships and relationships we once may have considered important in our lives at one time suddenly disappear from our lives?

Often, times we reflect back on our life relationships and catch ourselves wondering ‘whatever happened to so and so?’. Sometimes we remember why those people have exited our lives, and other times we can go back and analyze these relationships, looking back on what the significance was that person played in our lives. I refer to these short-term relationships as seasonal relationships for reasons – blessings and lessons.

These people who come into our lives for brief stints appear for reasons, and because they don’t remain in our lives indefinitely, they are classified as seasonal.

The universe has a way of knowing what we need in our lives at different times. There’s a popular phrase – What we focus on, we attract. For example, if we are focusing our attentions on something we wish for, we will eventually meet people who may possibly introduce us to avenues that we are focusing our attentions on. Similarly, if we focus on negative things, we may also be introduced to people who come into our lives who can teach us lessons.

We don’t meet people by accident, rather we encounter those who are meant to cross our paths. We either have something to be learned from everyone who comes into our lives or something to teach them. We may not realize initially, that some people we befriend are only meant to come into our lives for a specific amount of time before they fade out of our lives or are evicted from our lives. Those relationships weren’t meant to exist for a lifetime, but merely for a designated amount of time to teach us something. Everything in life is pre-destined so the time limits spent with these messengers who come into our lives depends on the needs we’ve met.

Even people we’ve met who we don’t desire to have in our lives have something to teach us. Perhaps we may meet someone who constantly tests our patience or maybe we’ve had some unfinished business from a past life and the universe sends us someone who has something to learn from us. These people we meet may come into our lives to enlighten, encourage, motivate or remind us at a time we’re in need and although they may not stay long, their invaluable lessons will remain.

In other instances, some people come into our lives to ‘hold space’ so to speak. An example of this could be if we’re pining to meet someone to have a fulfilling relationship with and we end up in a short-term and failed relationship with a ‘fill-in’ until the right person comes along. We may feel deflated from such a relationship because they ‘wasted’ our precious time. But never feel like the time has been wasted. Instead, look for things you learned from the time in that relationship. Perhaps you chose to enter that relationship because you were so happy to finally get in a relationship. Was that person dishonest, were they abusive, did they add any value to our life? Even if the answers to those questions were negative, we learned what we don’t want in a relationship, and that will better prepare us for the next one and the one that’s meant to be.

We can meet people anywhere – a store, a party, a bus stop, online or by introduction from a common friend. We might get lucky and make a lifelong friendship, or perhaps enter a new romantic relationship with that person. But whatever the ‘reason’ we met and regardless if they are short or long-term relationships, there is always something of value to learn from them.

We attract what we allow and focus on, even in our sub-conscience. So next time we find ourselves questioning why someone entered our life for a short time, look deeper into what we learned from that experience.

The following video I found elaborates on the points I’ve mentioned above.



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57 thoughts on “Meeting People for Reasons and Seasons

  1. Debby, what a wonderful post about people that come and go in our lives and the reason behind it. Reading your post was like experiencing a Ah Ha…moment throughout the entire written post as people I have known came to mind, some who have been in my life and now gone, were there for a specific lesson to be learned. Amazing! Thank you, Debby.

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  2. What a fabulous discussion, Debby. I’ve often wondered why we meet folks and suddenly, they are gone from our lives. I think this can be said of our children too. My son falls into that category. I’ve had to let him go, as I’ve heard nothing from him for almost 7 years now. My consolation is that I tried to raise him the best I could. Maybe our time is now finished. However, I can truly say that I’ve learned something from everyone I’ve met. Don’t you think that sometimes we change and that requires us to move on too? In other words, we change or the other person does? I enjoyed the video, too. Hugs, Sis. ❤

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    1. Thanks bunches Sis. Right on, I feel it applies to anyone in our lives. They came for a reason whether we needed them or they needed us, took what they needed and moved on. I truly believe this is the life cycle. ❤

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  3. Love this post, sis. And it is something we all think about. People who come in and out of our lives and are missed, or not. Just the other day in conversation, the question you quoted was asked, “Whatever happened to so and so,” Great post. ❤

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  4. A lovely post, Debbie and on a subject that I have come across more since having lived here and on my profile I say that some people are just passing through and some stay for a while which is fine because from all of them I have gained something ( normally) a recipe…lol…But also hope I have left them with something…But how rich it makes our memories 🙂

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  6. Yes, I agree with everything you said in this perfect post that says it all. I have met many people who stayed in my life for a short time. Some have kept in touch when they moved away while others dropped out of sight. It is sad sometimes when you want to keep a friendship going but it is not to be. But as you said, we do learn and grow with each new relationship. I am happy to have you in my life now, Debby. I hope we keep in touch for many years to come. God Bless you! 🤗 ❤️

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  8. A very interesting post Debby. We do meet so many people in our lives some stay, some go. And sometimes we move on and can’t quite remember why we chose to do so! A forgotten argument, a cross word. I’ve noticed that I’ve become much more curious about people I see in passing wherever they may be. The same faces on the bus each morning to work. Perhaps it is the author in me wanting to connect with a wider range of people. Writing does strange things to you!

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  11. Interesting post. I’ve had that: people coming and going in my life for no apparent reason. I’ve learnt from them and they’ve learnt from me. However, I disagree that life is pre-destined. I’ve toyed with that idea and played it through but each time, I am left with ‘what if’.

    After an intense session with a medium, she provided my destiny, but she had no idea how desperate I was. She didn’t expect me to do what I did. Within hours, I had changed my destiny because I didn’t want the one laid out for me. If I had not gone to her and learnt what I did, I would have been stuck with it. Knowledge is power, and while I can’t change the past, I have the power to change my future.

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    1. Thanks for sharing Diane. We all have the power to change our destinies. Every decision we make will become our fate. But I do believe, no matter how we get to where we’re going, if we’re supposed to meet someone to teach us something, we will. 😉

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