Do you struggle with trusting your intuition? Do you feel pangs of anxiety when having to face a big decision in your life, fighting the inner conflict of the two sides of the coin when you know something is off, yet, you don’t know whether you should trust your inside warning system or if you should just simply wave off your concerns as your imagination?
All of us have been in these predicaments at various times in our lives. And I’m sure many of us tend to wave off our worries, sometimes allowing the chips to fall where they may because we’re just too afraid to make an executive decision. But often, letting the chips fall where they may because of self-doubt will lead to a negative outcome. So how can we help ourselves become more assertive when it comes to making a decision about things we don’t really want to think about but aren’t going away? We must take a step outside of our worries and delve into the elements of our dilemmas looking at them from a different perspective.
Sometimes removing ourselves from the equation helps us take a better look at facts objectively, and this will help immensely. Nobody ever made great decisions while under duress, and by distancing ourselves from our own inner turmoil will aid in giving us a little breathing room, which in turn helps us to use better logic rather than feeling pressured by staying stagnant in the worry vacuum. When we aren’t consumed with constant worry and we take a breather, we allow our minds to calm and can feel and receive our intuitive messages better while not remaining situated in the immediate inner conflict.
Another way to help us assess our inner feelings is by journaling. Yes, it works! By allowing all our thoughts and concerns to pour out on paper not only relieves the pressure out of our heads, but when reading it back to ourselves we can systemically point out to ourselves precisely what is eating us, and sometimes even find our answers through our own words for resolutions.
Did you know that the gut and the brain have a direct relation to stress and worry? It’s not a myth that emotions we experience are linked to the stomach – hence, that butterfly feeling we get in our stomachs when we feel scared, worried, or excited. These are good indicators of the ‘gut instincts’ we receive when something is off or in contrast, when something feels great. When things are feeling off it’s a warning sign to investigate our feelings to help us decide whether they are temporary moments or warning signals.
When we have two voices in our heads battling each other, sending off warning alerts, we must distinguish between the alarm bell ringing within and our resistance to pay it no mind, blaming our ‘overactive’ panic. So, here’s what we can do to help us figure out what to do when our instincts are shouting out to us:
Keep track of the feelings and messages we receive from within in a journal. List our pros and cons of our dilemmas and possible resolutions.
If we’re focused on one particular issue that won’t go away and we repeatedly begin seeing number sequences, these can be reminder messages or confirmations that resolutions we are contemplating are on the right track.
Pay attention to vivid dreams that often portend messages. And have that journal handy to write down what stands out to us from those dreams.
If you feel unsafe in a certain situation, don’t second-guess your feelings, listen to them.
Speak with a close friend or family member who is familiar with our situation to receive feedback on their views. This doesn’t necessarily mean they are correct with their opinions, but mulling things over with someone else can bring in a different perspective by shedding some light on ideas we may not have thought of ourselves.
Learn to trust and tune into our intuition. And if we aren’t familiar with paying attention to the warning signals our body sends us from within, we can learn how to tune in better by reading books on the topic, watching a few Youtube videos, or joining groups which we can mingle with like-minded people who have more experience to share with us.
Below are some links and books to get you started:
How the stomach works like a warning system:
Learning to trust your intuition:
4 Gut instincts to never ignore:
Below, I’m recommending two good books on learning how to listen to your intuition to get you started by Lynn A. Robinson, international expert on the topic of intuition –
Compass of the Soul
If any of you have any great recommendations to watch or read on the topic of developing your intuition, please share in comments.