Part Two: Embracing Being an Empath

Learning to Understand Your Gift(s) 

 

Definition of an Empath:

“An Empath is a person who is able to recognize and identify the emotions of others.” Empaths are attuned to feel empathy, are sensitive as is their nature and have a strong moral aptitude.  They are interactive with another person’s emotions and are understanding of those emotions. Empathy and Sympathy are cognitively very different. Sympathy is pity whereas Empathy is compassion, caring, and love.

What makes an Empath empathic? They are deeply attuned to all emotions they encounter, have heightened intuition, are strongly self-aware, become in sync with the energy of other people, have a compassionate nature, and felt love and empathy at a very young age.  They are generally trustworthy, honest, have a contemplative nature, their concern for others is genuine, are sensitive of others emotional pain, are altruistic, deeply respect all living things, often ponder the meaning of life, are wise, and are often introverts. True Empaths feel the physical pain echoes of others.

Some believers say that Empathic people need to avoid all negative energy and other peoples’ pain. In actuality true Empaths are drawn to people who are suffering because Empaths feel the need to give compassion, to help another in whatever way they can.

Empaths, whether they are aware or not aware they are Empaths, feel emotions from others deeply whether positive or negative emotions. However, people with negative emotions are suffering from emotional injuries to their psyche. These are the people that need Empaths the most. People with happy emotions are balanced and have dealt with the highs and lows of life successfully.

For example, if you work with someone or know someone who is radiantly happy one day and miserably unhappy the next. This person may be an unaware Empath who unknowingly takes on the negative emotions of another person and don’t know they are Empaths. You may want to take the time and talk with the unaware Empath. You might dramatically improve the life of this unaware Empath who is probably thinking they have become emotionally unstable.

Often, even aware Empaths (without important knowledge about their abilities) may still hide themselves away from others and think of their gift as a curse. They have yet to learn to embrace this very special gift to improve their life, and often the lives of others through their Empathic gifts (Precognitive, Psychometric, Telepathic, Physical, Geomantic, Emotional, and Animal/Plant Empaths).

Empaths, whether aware or not aware of their gift or gift(s) struggle with what to do with their gift, and even with the most positive energy encounter, an untrained Empath may be unprepared and are often drained emotionally afterward. A knowledgeable Empath already knows how to emotionally handle positive and negative energy from others they are helping and may or may not feel drained unless the energy field is more than negative, this would normally mean it is a diseased person’s pathological state of mind. Persons who have a diseased state of mind should be compassionately motivated to seek professional help.

Restoring Your Energy

  1. Find a quiet space to restore your energy: After extended periods of time with other people an Empath will often feel exhausted even if the energy field is positive. It is recommended that you prepare a place well ahead of time that is conducive to acquiring a renewed peace of mind. This place should be an area that is calming, relaxing, and private. It should contain things that calm you and renew your sense of peace/well-being.
  2. Running Away from Negative Energy: I do not agree with this perception of what an Empath should do. My definition of what an Empathic person should do and be is to help others who are suffering, and negative energy almost always means an emotionally hurt individual who needs the help of an Empath who understands both positive and negative energy.
  3. Show Gratitude: Being grateful is a key element of cultivating a peaceful mindset, helping you to naturally cultivate partnerships with other people.
  4. Reach Out to Other Empaths: Empaths are often told they are too sensitive and that can really upend the apple cart for many Empaths. Empaths often read tiny details into what they see and feel and become rigid in their daily activities. It is almost as though you may feel like an alien being because no one seems to understands you. This is when you know you must gather your strength and reach out to other communities some are online that do cater to Empaths. It is a wonderful feeling to experience a sense of belonging, knowing that other Empaths have experienced the same thing as you. You read their emotions as well, and understand that they are well-adjusted, peaceful, and for the most part happy with their gift(s).
  5. Mediate: As an Empath, this ancient practice is key to restoring balance to your mind and spirit. Meditation clears the mind; it flushes out negative energy and improves your sense of being regarding your mind and your spirit. Meditation also helps you to develop a stronger identity of who you are. If you are secure knowing who you are, very little can turn your life upside down.
  6. Have an Outlet: Your life should not be totally consumed with being an Empath; balance is key to being happy about who you are. Joining activities that you like such as hiking, swimming, going to the gym to workout, writing, artistic works, are all activities that help to clear away negative energy, are fun to do, and add a healthful way of being.
  7. Follow Your Dreams: Being an Empath is part of your DNA, but you have many other talents, so develop them, become successful at them. The more you accept your emotional depth of feelings, the larger, greater your reservoir of creativity. There are many areas to choose from; writing stories, a novel, poetry, becoming an artist, a dancer, a volunteer, and allowing yourself all the creativity that comes with being an Empath. Being an Empath is a gift not a curse. Life as an Empath is all about what you make it.

References:

Psychic Empath by Kimberly Moon

The Positive Trait Thesaurus by Angela Ackerman & Becca Puglisi

 

 

22 thoughts on “Part Two: Embracing Being an Empath

  1. Very helpful article. I agree with all of them except number 2. In where it states “Running from negative energy” but you mentioned that you disagree with that.

    I think it is toxic for us as empaths to feel like we should “fix” everyone and everything. I often feel that way, and am a VERY loyal person. It is especially toxic when an empath is in a relationship with a narcissist. The empath and the narcissist are usually naturally drawn to eachother. Narcissists are usually the way they are due to some deep trauma they went through as a child. But their behavior can be very dangerous mentally and physically, even to someone who is not an empath. No amount of compassion we can show them will motivate them to be a better person. In this case – RUN! I have been there before…

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    1. Excellent points, Amy. I tend to “retreat” from negative energy. It exhausts me. People don’t realize that some of us wear out quickly. Your point about narcissists is spot on. I’ve also learned that I can’t “fix” everyone, nor will I try to. That was a hard lesson. Compassion is a deep awareness of the suffering of another accompanied by the wish to relieve it. I feel this often. That doesn’t mean that I act on those feelings. Like you said, with narcissists you can’t do anything, but run. I listen to and trust my feelings. I’m usually right about people, too. I wish you a blessed new year, my friend. ❤

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      1. Colleen, exactly! A narcissist’s state of mind is diseased and can advance to worse states of mind over time. The only thing to do is to suggest meditation for that person and a visit with a psychologist. I have been surprised though that many do get professional help. If they don’t, I completely walk away too.

        I had my own clinic for diabetes, morbid obesity, etc., and I had 26 physicians who sent me their patients, many of these patients had narcissism. Fortunately, I had a psychologist on staff as well that helped some of my patients. Often, I had no choice but to send them back to their physician with an explanation/health status report. All in all, the narcissists were exhausting. I lasted two years with my own clinic and then decided to go back to working in clinical research, noting to myself that there is only so much an Empath can do if a mental issue is overwhelming, no matter how much empathy an Empath feels. I did eventually go back to individual patient care, but like you, I now listen to and trust my feelings about people, but not perfectly. Have a blessed new year and I am blessed already with your friendship!

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    2. Amy, yes, if a person has a diseased mental state, there is nothing or very little an empath can do. Instead, suggest the person get professional help and then walk, not run a way and don’t go back to that person until they have seen a psychologist, or their church pastor for further help and if he or she doesn’t do that, there is little to nothing anyone can do. Thank you for your great comment.

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    1. Adele, thank you so much! I am so happy that you liked my article/post. As an Empath, it is not always easy to discern another person’s state of mind. Many Narcissus individuals have learned to hide there true feelings until they get to know you better, after they have drawn you into their initial approach and then you really get to know them and their real intentions are revealed. They are often drawn to Empaths, thinking, perhaps that they will be able to control an Empaths natural need to show compassion. So, best to walk away quickly. Only a psychologist or psychiatrist are prepared generally to be able to help them, but even professionals have a great difficulty changing the Narcissus state of mind. Narcissus individuals think they know more about everything than anyone else.

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  2. Thanks very much for your helpful advice. I agree with you that empaths shouldn’t run away from negative energy its more a question of protecting your energy field and clearing it. Doctors don’t run away when his or her patient has an illness that spreads airborn for example. They put on facemasks and get on with their job. My life has become so much easier since I developed a daily energy clearing and protection routine. I now seem to have a good influence on others without losing energy myself. Happy Saturday to you and yours 🙋‍♀️🐝

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    1. Bee, that is so awesome and if you would ever like to post on Sister’s of the Fey (they are all empathic. I also agree with the fact that physicians don’t run away from their patients. They just take measures that keep everyone: other patients,office staff, and nurses safe. I am not bothered by others negative energy 90% of the time, because and empath helps those suffering from grief, sadness, and incurable illness too. The one caveat is that a diseased mind does not often respond to positive, caring energy and needs to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can cause harm to everyone, I do also clear negative repercussions when the negative is caused by a diseased mind as in narcissism. Thank you for a great comment. Karen 🙂

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